How to Avoid Regrets

When it comes to many of the things we face in our lives, we will someday say “I wish I had” or “I’m glad I did”.

Forgiveness is like that. At some point we will say “I wish I had forgiven that person” or “I’m glad I forgave him or her”.

Our online businesses are like that too.

We look back over our past experiences, be that months, weeks or years, and wish we had done things differently. Many of us have regrets.

  • We wish we had built a bigger list.
  • We wish we had created more products.
  • We wish we had done more joint ventures.
  • We wish we had published more articles.

These sorts of regrets are natural. There are only 24 hours in a day, and so very many shiny objects to distract us.

So how can we avoid having regrets next week, next month or next year?

I believe there are three steps.

1. Realize that no one can do everything.

One trap we fall in is comparing ourselves to others. We see big time marketers having million dollar launches and think that should be us.

What we don’t consider is this –

  • They have a network of contacts we don’t have.
  • They promote each other’s products (hard) and have a tight-knit circle that is hard to penetrate.
  • They have staffs and resources (and budgets) we just don’t have.

So step 1 is easy – don’t compare yourself to others.

Compare your progress to what you are capable of doing now.

If you don’t like your results now, gain more capability by taking steps 2 and 3 below.

Remember, the key is not what you know but what you do with what you know.

2. Have a plan that you own.

Everyone who is trying to make money online needs a plan. We all need a Roadmap that we own.

What do I mean by “a Roadmap that we own”?

Simply this – your plan needs to be your plan.

It needs to fit you in three basic areas …

  1. Time
  2. Money
  3. Passion

If you find something that fits all three, whether that is affiliate marketing, creating products, consulting or content marketing, you will find your success.

The key here is ownership.

When you own your plan of action, when you create it for yourself, then you will not be tempted by shiny objects or swayed by the “flavor of the month” marketing tactic.

If you don’t have plan that you own today, you can make one right here.

3. Focus on tomorrow’s activity tonight.

There has been so much written on time management and how to get things done that it’s easy to be overwhelmed by the very idea.

But one of the things that has stood the test of time is this – if you write down tonight the top 5 things you must get done tomorrow, and prioritize the list, you will get more done.

Whether you are a paper-planner based person, have gone completely digital or somewhere in between, this simple step works.

It works because it lends focus and keeps us in “day tight” compartments.

If you believe, as I do, that a successful life is a series of successful days, then this one tip can change things for you in a big way.

Regret is a negative and soul-sucking emotion. Avoiding it is wise. But we all have some level of regret in our lives.

What we can do now, today, is this – we can use the regret we feel to spur us to action today, and take those actions today that avoid regret in the future.

When you do those things, in life and in business, you will be doing a beautiful thing indeed!

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Charlie Page
 

Happily married for 44 years, Charlie is the dad to two wonderful daughters. He is the author of 12 books on Internet marketing and creator of over 16 membership sites. You can see all Charlie offers using this link Click Here

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  • Mark Mansfield says:

    Hi Charlie, with reading all your blogs I should be able to help 1000s of people but I have trouble taking it all in. Lists are good & I know that I can’t do everything but at the moment I’ll have to. Thanks Mark M

  • Aida Suarez says:

    Charlie, thanks for this blog talking about planning. That indeed is a beautiful thing! So tonight I promise myself to stop wandering around with my thoughts and start writing down my agenda for tomorrow. Not in my thoughts like I usually do, but using paper and pencil. Wish me luck with this determination. Since I am getting older I notice that I am not getting better remembering things. So I have no choice but follow your advise today. Thanks again!!

    • Charlie Page says:

      There is an old saying I love – “the palest ink is better than the strongest memory.” Writing things down helps.

      Our brains are great at many things but storing lists is not usually one of them.

      Thank you for your comment. Always a pleasure to hear from you.

  • Gordon Appleby says:

    Short article, Charlie, but packed with so much wisdom. I like to choose one big takeaway when I read your articles, but that’s not possible with this one. They are all big, so I’ll just have to add one of my own, and it’s this: Failure is not fatal. And it’s not nearly as painful as “Failure to Launch” and the regret that soul-sucking reality brings. You won’t break the Internet. You won’t lose all your money. You won’t ruin your reputation or embarrass yourself. What you will do is learn, make progress, and grow – and eventually…succeed.

    What we call “Fear of Failure” is really “Fear of Embarrasment”, which when you think about it, is actually no big deal. The day I stopped worrying about what other people thought is the day I really started living free.

    I sold The Wealth Club in Houston about a year and a half ago. It was my life’s work for 14 years. After all the hoopla surrounding my farewell speech, looking back, I found tremendous satisfaction in these four words…”I did my best.” Lots of failures. Lots of mistakes. A few successes – No Regrets.

    I wish that for all of us. Go for the prize. Even with the failures, it’s worth the journey.

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